.....The Divorce paperwork should start like this,.....I keep my clothes and my car, you keep your clothes and your car...........I keep the BOAT, you can keep the house and all the other stuff. BELIEVE ME! Arguing, is how attorneys make their living, not settling your problems. At $200.00 to $350.00 per hour for representation, it's a bargain by far to just settle amicably without lawyers, if at all possible. The house? She'll likely not be able to keep up all the costs ( neither would you ), and It'll be gone eventually anyway. Try to get through it as quickly as you possibly can. Life, for me, got amazingly better after my divorce! Did I mention keep the boat? Oh, and the Monkees records, keep those too.